Saturday, December 15, 2012

When My Light Begins To Flicker

I believe that when tragedy occurs it has an effect that triggers many different reactions in human beings. I think it has a whole different and more intense impact on light workers and empaths. As a light worker it is in our nature to heal and reach out to those who are in pain and provide comfort. It comes naturally, it's a part of our life and we just know to radiate love outwards.

However it's very clear to me that even though I did a mediation, the focus was on where I could be of service. In my prayers as well I have been asking God to use me as an instrument of peace and love. I, however have not been asking for any healing for myself. I have become proficient as giving thanks and being grateful. I'm used to sending out light and positive vibrations for others. I am masterful at offering support.

Unfortunately, I have not been honoring my commitment to myself, I haven't been asking for healing, light and energy for myself. I know that I'm good at creating it but this evening as I felt myself on the verge of tears and despair I had to stop and ask why? What happened here? It's not that I do not have a vast community of people who have my back, because I do. I really have just been giving out, giving out, giving out and not taking the time to be still, silent and take in, allow myself to receive that wonderful energy I give out.

What I'm going to do is ask my community for their positive energy. Send it to me. Pray for me to regain my balance. Send me light and love. For myself I'm going to take a day or two to replenish my own flickering light. I know my light won't go out but it's flickering which means there's entirely too much energy going on and not enough stillness. I will be still and I will be with the silence so that I can hear what I need to be doing for myself. Balance. I am going to light my world and my community of love will help me. I'm not alone. I am loved. I am blessed. I am taken care of and I am alright.

After you read this please just take a moment and send me positive vibes and lots of light. I appreciate the love in advance.

Much Love,

Tahira ❤❤❤❤❤❤

Wednesday, August 29, 2012

When The Weight Is Too Heavy

Weight is a sensitive topic for many, myself included. When we discuss weight in America it's usually broken down in the context of fat is bad, lazy, wrong and ugly. While thin is beautiful, healthy, active and right. Wow, do you know what does to the self esteem of millions of women everyday? We have the big girls developing all kinds of disorders and self loathing acts to get thin and the thin girls also developing all kinds of disorders and self loathing acts to to stay thin. All of that for what?

I think it's a great thing to be aware of what goes into your body. Your body is your temple, your shrine, you only get one and you should care what goes into it. Sometimes you'll want ice cream, cookies, chips, dip, chocolate, fries, candy, pizza annnnnnnnnnnnd pickles. Yup, all at once. When you see that development you don't just give into ALL of those desires and observe your thoughts. What the heck? Why am I wanting to eat all of this unhealthy stuff at once? I've never heard anyone say "Gosh, I'm sooooo craving that amazing salad." let's be real not all healthy food is going to be appealing however you have to find ways that will make the food that's good for you appealing and the junk should be phased out little by little. It will be something you'd soon want to do once you do start eating healthier because your body will react badly to the junk. Your body will reject the food that isn't good for you after a while and you'll be well on your way to healthy eating. Yaaaaay!!!!!!!!!!!

Let me tell you though, this eating healthy business doesn't happen overnight. Nope. Before you get there you need to figure out how you got to the weight you are now to begin with. Why are you overweight or obese? Why do you choose junk vs healthy food? Why do you choose to sleep and watch TV as opposed to going outside for a run? Why? Let's dig. Ask yourself, when did food become a hiding place and comfort zone? What triggered that reaction to over eat? What made you choose a life of inactivity vs one of activity and vigor? What thoughts did you have? How old were you when you started having those thoughts?

Being overweight has a lot to do with inactivity but it also has a lot to do with emotions. Many people, especially women who are overweight or obese have had some kind of mental, emotional, physical or sexual abuse happen to them and it was never discussed. Many women turn to food as a comfort when they are dealing with trauma. Food let's off endorphins that tells us that we are happy, safe and protected right in our little food comas. We may not medicate with pills but we sure do medicate with food

Many people make resolutions at the beginning of the year, vowing to lose weight. Yes!!!!! This is my year!!!!!! This is my transformation. I'm going to lose 80 lbs in four months. Yea!!!!! I am readddddddy!!!!!!!!!!!! By February 1st most ppl have been off their plans for at least two weeks. Know why? So many people make their resolutions but they don't even get to the source of why they want to transform this issue. Why? Are you doing it for someone else? To fit it? To please someone? For you? Why for you? What's your goal? What will weight loss do for you? Why is it important to you? What will losing weight mean for your life? What if you fail? Then what? What happens if you don't hit your goal by the time you said you would? What do you do? Who is holding you accountable? Do your loved ones know what you're up to? Do you have cheerleaders? Do you have a coach? A journal? A plan? Anything?

My people the weight of weight becomes too much when we don't even know how we got there. One minute you had your weight managed and all of a sudden you can't see your toes. Or maybe your weight has never been managed and you finally want to get to the bottom it. All of these reasons are why you should be on my FREE coaching call tomorrow night (8/30/12 @8PM) Get on and hear women share their stories, share yours and see what's possible for you. If you're interested then sign up for my weight loss coaching program and really dismantle your weight issues for good. My door is always open. All you have to do is walk in.

Tahira West
Owner/CEO
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201.500.7146
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When Pillars Crumble

Who champions the person who champions everyone else? Who holds up a pillar that wants to crumble? Who supports the supporter? These are the questions that I have asked myself when I was down, out and looking for someone to be in my corner but couldn't see anyone. Now, let me say, that just because I did not see anyone, it doesn't mean that no one was there. It doesn't really make any sense for a healer to heal everyone but be broken themselves. It doesn't work and it is inauthentic. To truly be a healer and a champion of people, the healer must know thyself well enough to heal thyself.  How does that become a reality? Look within. Self analysis and self healing should be at the core of anyone who works with people. Also, another HUGE component is that every healer needs someone that they can go to in order to release. A part of self analysis is knowing when to reach out.

Most of my clients are women who are strong, independent, moms, executives or in a role where they are the primary go to person in  every situation. These women champion people every day. They work hard, and very seldom find any time to play or even rest sometimes. These women work tirelessly. They work through illness, depression, frustration and loneliness all with a bright smile. That is not a foreign scene in communities where women are at the core of keeping everything together. We witness strong smiles but seldom do we see the tears of pain and isolation that are cried in bed and alone. We don't see these women fall apart in the face of worry, anxiety or stress, we see smiles, and we hear them say yes even when do not have to energy to truly help, but they help anyway. Who champions these women? Who can, if they won't let anyone in though? I have watched my mom work hard, go from job to job and still come home and get a million things done. However, I do not witness satisfaction, joy or bliss when she tired like that but there are no complaints. The thing is though, I do not know my mom to talk about her burdens, pains or heartaches... I never heard her talk about those things, nor any of the women in my family. They just push through their pain. Is that safe though? Is that okay?

It isn't. It isn't okay nor safe to be dealing with stress and not talk about it. It isn't safe to be dealing with a tremendous amount of heartache only to suppress it. What ends up happening is that the smile will eventually fade and turn to a grimace. The sunshine will eventually set and to those looking on they won't overstand the shift because to them it would seem sudden, not knowing the pain that had been brewing for years, maybe decades.Women of color are taught to just deal with their issues silently. Speaking to professionals about our issues is often looked upon as taboo, weird or things that white people do.However, at the core we all hurt and we all want to be loved. Somewhere down the line we get a hard disappointment and we don't talk about it, so we tattoo that pain on our souls and we judge every situation, person and lesson by that one disappointment. We collect disappointments like trophies in our communities and we let them stack up and we wear that pain around our bellies, on our shoulders and  in our thighs. We put the disappointments into our cooking, the way we speak to our children and how we live our lives. We become overweight, scared, safe, shut down, paranoid, angry, bitter but strong. Is that kind of strength really worth it? I am going to take a stand and say NO!

We all need someone in our corner. The best of us have coaches, Jordan, Woods, Williams, Bolt, Jeter and countless others. We all need someone who we can go to so that we can vent, communicate pain and receive advice or in my case coaching. Being strong is knowing when to ask for support. Being strong is breaking your silence when you realize that it is killing you slowly. Being strong is talking out your issues with a professional as opposed to taking your frustration out on your children. Being strong is knowing when to simply say "I need help." This is where I come in, that's my job. My job is to champion those who champion others. My job is to heal those whose wounds go so deep that  they began to accept them as a part of their lives. My job is to help people live the life they want and not just the life they think that they have to live. My job is to help you transform your life into love. Allow me to do my job while you rest from doing yours.

Tahira West
Owner/CEO
Pure Peace Life Coaching
www.purepeacelifecoaching.com
PurePeaceLC@gmail.com
201.500.7146

Monday, February 20, 2012

Forbidden Fruit

Why is the forbidden fruit so incredibly enticing all the time? It is the one thing that EVERYONE knows is bad for them, yet they cannot resist it. I myself am guilty of that in two specific areas; food and men. I love food, all kinds of food, and it just happens that the more unhealthy is, the more I would flock to it. This clearly has been my detriment because I am severely overweight and I did not have the zeal to work off my food addictions, so the weight kept on coming. I have the same mentality about men. There are men who I have known that were not good for me, yet still I flocked to them like bees to flowers. What on earth was wrong with me?

I know that if anyone tells me I can't that makes me defy them and show them that I can. Even if it was to my detriment, I was not going to be proven wrong under any circumstances. Therefore, I did what I thought was building my character, but instead I was only feeding my ego and neglecting my divinity. I can see that as clear as day now, and I can say confidently that I have no regrets. I realize that I had to live these lessons in order to overstand and truly appreciate what it is like to think with clarity and the consciousness that my body is a temple. My mind is a temple. My spirituality is a temple and I need to take care of myself and treat myself royally because I am a loved child of God. There is nothing that I have to prove to anyone. My vision is treat myself well and to keep using my thoughts to give rise to actions that correlate with my ascension into divinity and to honor myself and honor God.

I now would look at soda or fried foods, and I  can think that it may smell good or look good but it is NOT good for me. It doesn't add anything to my body that will promote a clear mind. It doesn't add any value that would keep my body active or keep my metabolism going. Unhealthy food is such a detriment to me now, that I look back and wonder how did I get so far removed from my true self. Why did I pick up these unhealthy eating habits? The truth is that I never knew any other way. I ate what was there without truly giving thought to what it may be doing to my body. I just ate. Now, that I am aware and I do have the consciousness to choose what goes into my temple, I honestly don't even crave those healthy things anymore. My body rejects the mere thought of it.

The same goes for toxic men. I was just choosing wrong guy after wrong guy because I was attracting takers. I thought that if I gave of myself, time, energy and love to these men, perhaps one day they would see my worth and in turn decide to reciprocate the same kinds of feelings. I thought that perhaps they would give me the energy and time and love that I had been putting in. However, that never happened. They never saw. They took all that I had to offer, without returning anything into my emotional bank and I was BROKE. I mean I poured all of my energy into these men who were not deserving and I was broke, drained, dried up, spent and just finished. I would look back on these relationships and wonder what happened? How did I allow myself to not be loved and treated the way that I wanted to? The answer was in front of me all along. I was giving these men what I should have been giving to myself. I should have been pouring all that time, love and energy into building myself up and not giving it to them. They took my energy and used their own to pour it into themselves and into other women. I was so blinded by the PROSPECT of love that I never let the prospect grow into ACTUAL love. I left them at bay and as a result I got to be closed off, blocked off and not really open up at all. I invested so much in them that I stopped them from really getting a glimpse at me. I never gave them an opportunity to cater to me or to really wow me or sweep me off of my feet because I chose to do all the work. It was safer for me that way. I am a keeper and holder of EVERYONE'S secrets and that is what I am good at, but NO ONE knows any of my secrets, not really and that has kept me really safe but lonely this entire time. I keep people away, because if I opened up, then what would I have to give if it looks as though I am broken too? I am supposed to have it together and be the healer. Healers have no pain, we are healed, we were born this way, no issues at all... Yea, right!

Clearly, I know that all healers have a past, and yes they did heal but it did not happen overnight. What I am learning is to let go of my obsession of getting it right, looking good and being a perfectionist because that is so inauthentic. The person that is here today has been through a series of things, hurts, pain, tribulations, bottom of the barrel and everything else any person has been through. I too have those moments that would make someone gasp if I told them the entire story of some of my lessons. However, those lessons are what makes me so incredibly powerful now. Those lessons are what makes me a healer, and a compassionate listener, judgement free. Who I am now is a womyn that is still a work in progress but I understand now that my entire life is for a purpose. I am here for a purpose, and that purpose is to heal. I am here to heal all those who want and need it. I can do that by sharing my story and helping others to get to the other side of pain.

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I look forward to hearing from you.

Tahira

Thursday, February 9, 2012

Valentine's Day is EVERYDAY : )

I have been seeing the most melancholy status updates on Facebook and Twitter about VDAY. Come on people, come on, it is just a day!!! Not having a Valentine will NOT kill you. There are many people with Valentine sweethearts who are absolutely miserable. Okay, so what do we do here for all the broken hearts? Let's create : )

First, the love that you seek is within YOU. You must look inside of your beautiful self and see a being who is absolutely worthy of love. You do this by feeding yourself daily affirmations.

I am perfect.
I am whole.
I am complete.
I am worthy.
I am deserving.

You really want to get very clear that these things are true about you DESPITE what your past says. Your past could have damaged you, perhaps even traumatized many of you but your past is just that, the past. Here we are, in the present, which is the best gift of all. You have the opportunity to create a love that is abundant, long lasting, beautiful and that will survive past one flimsy Valentine day. Get present to the idea that VDAY is a commercial holiday. It means only what you make it mean. What good is VDAY  without the other 365 days (Leap year) being filled with absolute love and happiness?

We attract those on the same wavelength as us. So for all of you people who keep saying that you are finding these terrible dates, I am going to encourage you to look within yourself and see what it is about YOU that keeps attracting the same people over and over again. You must raise your vibration and change your thought process in order to attract who you truly want. However, in addition to attracting the right man /woman you must be clear that your life is ready to receive them. Is your space clear and clutter free? Are you in alignment with your higher self? Have you been praying and mediating? Are you taking care of your temple which includes you mind, body and spirit? Are you diligently working on your elevation? All of these things matter tremendously but NOTHING is more important that self work. Self work is what will make EVERYTHING in your life work or not work.

Consider that you can easily attract a valentine, sure. However, what are you committed to? Short term satisfaction or long term love. Long term love takes work, however if done correctly long term love can produce the most euphoric, delicious, wonderful love that can feel like St. Valentine's Day every single day. Check your thoughts. Observe your behavior. What more self work could you be doing? Do NOT obsess over finding love, it will find you at the appropriate time. In the mean time, work on yourself and constantly find ways to elevate yourself. Life is good and it's so much sweeter with love. There is no greater love than self love, once you have that, you can be in the most fulfilling relationship of your life.

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CREATION

To create is to give birth to something from nothing. We as human beings have absolute control and free will over what we create from our minds. Our thoughts is the place where creation is born and the rest of body follows suit. Thoughts give rise to actions.  In other words, whatever we think will show up in the way that we behave and carry ourselves. Everyday we are creating something, but how many of us actually pay attention to our thoughts?

I always ask my clients, "What do you want?" I get a variety of answers, but when I ask what are thinking that is stopping you from getting these things that you want? I am usually met with silence. They are not sure usually. I pose the question to you reading this blog, what do you want? What thought is stopping you from getting what you want? Everything and anything that can happen is created from our word. Our word is simply the manifestation of a thought. I have observing many people say I want love but there are no good men or women out there. Two things can happen with that mentality; 1. You will CONTINUE to attract no good men/women because that's the thought you have put out into the universe. Or you will be single for a while because you won't be attracting anyone to you because you think men/women are no good and you'll put up a wall so high that no one will be able to climb over, leaving you single and bitter. What you resist will persist. Keep saying I don't want a bad man/woman, and that is exactly what you will attract.

Okay, so how do you create what you want? Well, it takes practice. I was in the practice for many years talking about what I did not want. what I did not like, what I did not need and all of those things kept showing up. I thought maybe I was cursed or something. What I know now is that I am EXTREMELY powerful and whatever I thought would manifest into my life. I had to do a serious introspection into my thoughts. What was I thinking that was having all these things that I did not want in my life to keep showing up? I was focusing on the negative. I would not make affirmative statements. I'd say " I really hope this date doesn't cancel." Guess what would happen? You guessed correctly if you said the date canceled. I started noticing that pattern, if I think it then it happens. What would happen I thought, "This is going to be the best date ever!" ? Well, it turned out to be the best date ever. I realized that I LITERALLY had to power to sway how things went with my thoughts. I was committed to transforming my life by transforming my thoughts. In order to be successful at that, I had to CREATE a thought process that promoted success, growth, love and positive affirmations.

You may be at a point in your life where things are not going so well for you, and that's okay but what are you thinking? Are you creating and inviting negative thoughts into your space? Are you attracting what you don't want by thinking about what you don't want? Stop doing that then. To make it easier for yourself, get a journal and write down twenty things that you DO want. Once you have written them down, make  few copies and post them in places that you frequent in your house, car, workplace and subconsciously and even consciously you will be seeing your WANTS in an affirmative light. Now, to take it a step further instead of saying these are the things that you want, relate to them as things that you HAVE but you just have not uncovered them yet. Live into your future by OWNING your present. Think as though these are the things already yours. Observe your thoughts and see what shows up for you. Also, I have eliminated words like cannot, try, maybe, hope.....those words are ways for you to wavering in your thought process of ownership of your positive thoughts.

Just as GOD created the world and created YOU and said it was good, you too can do this. Reach in and find the I AM in yourself and CREATE love, light, positivity and everything else that is great, simply by THINKING thoughts that correlate with these things. You are a POWERFUL being. You are a beautiful, whole, complete and capable being who is worthy of having everything you desire. You must first create it within your thoughts. Your beautiful thoughts will give rise to beautiful actions which will produce beautiful results. You can do it. I see the GOD in you.

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Sunday, January 22, 2012

I See God In Me

I see God in me, therefore I see God in you. My relationship with God has always been an interesting one. I always knew that God was real but I just didn't really understand the depth and width of the realness. One day I was walking near a heavily forested area and it was almost as though I saw God. I was all of a sudden overcome by the abundance of all the green around me. I mean the towering trees with all of the leaves, the grass, the shrubs, everything was so alive and abundant. That was moment that I got clear that God is a loving God and anything that we could ever need or want is right at our fingertips because God provides us with more than enough.

God created everyone of us. I relate to God as a woman. God created me in her image and likeness, therefore I am whole, complete and fully capable. God created me and everyone else with love that is unlimited and boundless. When God created us she breathed life into us and we were created with perfection. When we are born all we know is that we are pure and we are a vessels that can carry many things but God wants us to be a vessel of love. As we grow, circumstances and worldly things move us away from our original state of purity and being a vessel of complete love. We step into some self loathing due to outside forces and we lose sight of our true nature. Instead of seeing love we see our shortcomings, flaws and wounds and we relate to ourselves in that way; broken. We tear ourselves down so much, and we have these thoughts that correlate with us being broken and we attract one bad thing after another into our lives. We claim that we are unworthy and  the things that are happening are perhaps justified because we have fallen so far from grace. What? How the heck did this happen?

Recently I have been meditating often and in my meditations I have been asking God to breathe life into me and to continue to guide my thoughts and my actions. Once I really understood that GOD is always in me and working through me that made it easier to do what I am sent here to do. My mission while I am here on this earth is to love unconditionally and to be of service. That is how I must honor God and therefore that is how I see God in me. I see God in me by loving myself with no judgement.I see God in me when I am being of service to someone who needs my assistance and that's when I see God in them. I see people as being whole, complete and fully capable. My job is to support them with seeing themselves that way too.

God doesn't want us to be scared and to have fear. Why? Why fear the one you love? Why fear someone who created you and breathed life into you? God is to be loved and to be respected. I deserve to be loved and respected. You deserve to be loved and respected. God is a wonderful God and a loving God. God sees us as beautiful and perfect creations, we need to see ourselves that way too. God is real. Honor God by loving yourself and others unconditionally. Honor God by being of service to humanity.

I see God in me. I see God in you.

I SEE YOU